What can I see about them?

The eleven things

Eleven things, and this is all of them.

1. Their first name. Never their full name.
2. Whether protection is on, and which status word the pass is carrying.
3. How far through the term they are, and the end date when the term has one.
4. A count of blocked attempts, and a note when that count runs higher than usual.
5. Milestone days they reached, and a term they extended with its new end date.
6. Whether an early exit request is open, and a note when they withdraw one.
7. Which alert categories they muted, by name.
8. A lapsed subscription, and the date protection would end if renewal stays off.
9. The app deletion lock turned off or kept, and which of three reasons they gave: freeing up space, changing phones, or other.
10. A handover: that one is running, the first name of the person taking over, and the date it takes effect.
11. A notice if they close their account, if they stop having a keyholder, or if they remove you.

You never see which apps or sites were involved, anything they browse, any amount of money, or anything they typed. There is no spend figure anywhere in what the server sends a partner, so there is nothing for a page or a pass to accidentally show you.

Where each fact reaches you

The same eleven facts arrive on three surfaces, and which surface carries which is a rule rather than a coincidence.

Your Wallet pass carries the standing picture: the status word, the day count, the milestone row, the blocked attempt count, which alerts are muted, and a handover in flight. It updates itself and banners your lock screen when something turns.

Email is the guaranteed floor, and it is deliberately narrow. It carries the four integrity events, which are an early exit request opening, protection going off, a phone that has stopped confirming, and a lapsed subscription; plus a milestone day, and one closing letter if they end their account. The quieter events, an all clear, an extended term, a busy stretch and a change to which alerts fire, ride the pass alone.

Your status page is the same picture in a browser, for the days you want to look rather than be told. It shows the day count, the end date, the current status and whether an exit request is open.

What never crosses at all

Four classes of thing have no carrier in Fold'em, which is stronger than a promise not to show them.

App and site identities are never sent. What the user picked lives on their phone as an opaque token that no server can read back into a name.

Money is worked out on their phone and never leaves it. No amount reaches a partner by any channel, in any letter, on any page or on the pass.

Anything typed is not collected. Exit requests carry no message field in either direction, so there is no note to you and no note back.

Location and browsing are never read. Fold'em blocks by asking the phone's own Screen Time controls and by answering DNS questions with nothing; neither produces a history to send.

What this does not do

Nothing on this list tells you whether they gambled. It tells you whether the blocks on one iPhone are running. A second phone, a desktop, a betting shop and cash are all outside what any app on that phone can see, and none of them produce an event here.

The list also does not tell you how current it is. The pass is a picture taken at the moment it was last generated, so a calm card is not proof that everything is calm right now. A witness sees a narrower version of this list, and their differences are set out separately.